I listened in on an awesome Women’s Empowerment conference call on Tuesday evening coordinated by Angela “Sadio” Watson Caroline Mallory, Anita Wade & Special Guest SVP Denair Huggins in 5LINX. The conference was very empowering in that Denair just brought it all into focus. Denair is one young lady that I admire greatly, not only because of her strides in 5LINX, becoming an SVP in nine months, but because of her personal power in overcoming the many setbacks in her life that she has shared.
Yes, I know that we all have struggles, I know I do, but what she has done is taken her struggles and used them to try and help other women who might have encountered similar situations.
Denair told us of how she had been married for ten years when she and her husband got a divorce after having two children. Not only did he divorce her in the marriage, he divorced the children as well. She never talked bad to her children about her ex-husband, instead, she picked up where he lacked and became both mother and father to her children. He left the children because he wanted her to hurt. It is sad that many parents use children to satisfy their own selfishness. In turn, the only people that get hurt are the children. She did what she had to do to raise her children into responsible adults. She learned how to let go of the animosity and focus on what was important, her children. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.
A couple of years ago she was involved in an unhealthy relationship. Although her gut probably warned her, she made the decision to become involved with this character. He was probably good looking, sexy, you know how we do. Eventually, I imagine she learned the truth about him and tried to leave the relationship. However, when she left, he became a stalker. He stalked her until he was able to get her in a position of vulnerability. The result was he almost killed her by strangulation. She barely escaped. She lived a life of fear because this man was on the run and not caught right away. I don’t remember all of the details, and I must confess that I probably don’t have the complete details here, however, he was eventually caught and sent to jail. We all applauded the day when she had to face her attacker in court to make sure he was punished. It was indeed a harrowing time for Denair, however, she recognized that she was not a victim, but a victor. She faced her fear head on and all that held her back in order to put it behind her.
The Bible says “All things work together for those that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.” It also says, “Many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivers them out of them all.”
Denair learned that in order to move forward in her life, she had to let go of her hurts. She had to stand up and not allow those setbacks in her life to allow her to stop moving. No matter what stood in her way, no matter the challenges, no matter what weighed her down, she forged ahead and let go of the things that were holding her back because she knew that God had something so much bigger in store for her. She has a mission to share how she has become ‘Unshackled’. You, too, can become unshackled too.
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
― Ann Landers